Sometimes I wish I lived in an era where technology wasn’t so advanced.
While I’ve mentioned before that having so many ways to communicate these days is a blessing, some days it just wears you down.
These days I have very little ‘in person’ contact with my friends and the people I know. I text every single one of them. And I have to say, it’s just not doing it for me.
Things seem so difficult over text. You cannot convey any emotion accurately. Basically the words on the screen can be read in any tone at all by the reader. If they want to read it lightly, they can. But they can also read it in a loud angry voice in their heads.
I get quite frustrated by this. I want to convey that I’m sad/angry/genuinely feeling something. But all you get are black and white words on a screen. Other than the words themselves, there’s no way of knowing what I’m feeling. And if you don’t believe my words either, this is a wasted conversation.
Sure you can throw all kinds of emoticons in there (emojis for you young’uns) but even those are up for interpretation.
Like the humble smiley face 🙂
When you want it to be, 🙂 <—- this thing can be the most sadistic message you can send someone. No joke.
And sure you can put in emphasis
LIKE WHEN YOU’RE READING THIS, IT’S PROBABLY QUITE LOUD IN YOUR HEAD
But then again, the words aren’t angry.
Or are they?
It’s just a bit too difficult. And also, people have very short attention spans. I could be pouring my heart out over text to someone, and they go offline or to the next app for a few minutes and just leave me hanging and wondering when they’re going to read my message and reply.
Which would never happen if real life. If someone was crying in front of you, you wouldn’t say oh be right back just gonna check my mailbox real quick. No you’d give them your full, undivided attention (I’d hope)
That’s what I strive to do. If someone sends me a message saying they need to talk or they’re upset, I drop everything and listen for as long as I possibly can until they’re feeling better. And I would never leave them on “read”.
And that’s another thing. With so many ways these days of knowing if someone got your message, it’s hard not to ask yourself “well they saw the message, why aren’t they replying?”
Whereas back then, if you called someone on the phone, you’d know whether they would talk to you, or if they don’t pick up, they’re actually doing something else or are busy. It just doesn’t feel good to be ignored. Makes you feel unimportant. It makes you feel like you’re bothering your so-called “friends”. I never want anyone who came to me to feel that way.
Even people who haven’t spoken to you in a while. You think to yourself, well they have Facebook. They could just message me. Why aren’t they making the effort?
Whereas back then, if two people have drifted apart, staying in contact is actually physically difficult. So they just fade away and everybody moves on with the people who are currently in their vicinity. Atleast you can tell yourself that it really is hard to stay in contact. Not that they didn’t make the effort.
But this should go both ways, I mean. You have to make the effort too.
But I feel these days, people don’t. I think I’m trying too hard putting effort in, in a time period where I don’t belong.
I just want to talk out loud. In person or on the phone. Sure, texting means people can think about their replies before they say them and maybe that’ll stop people from saying stupid things (in theory). But it doesn’t really always work that way and it takes too long to get your point across. And by then, they’ve already sent 5 messages and are interpreting the tone of your messages inaccurately.
I just wish there weren’t so many ways that I can be misunderstood or feel ignored. If people aren’t going to put in effort, I think it’s better they fade away out of sight and become difficult to contact.