Real Mature

What is maturity? 

I’ll tell you what it’s Not.

It’s Not telling someone else that they’re immature. 

I find that a lot of people go around these days telling others they’re not “mature enough” because of the way they deal with certain situations. 

I don’t get this. 

I don’t pretend that I’m mature. I don’t pretend I know what a mature person is. I think people are all different and we all have different ways of dealing with things. I don’t tell anyone they’re not “mature”. Because I don’t think anyone is truly “mature”

It’s definitely not an age thing. I’ve seen 50+ year olds act like absolute children, and I’ve seen children show surprising levels of “maturity” for their age. 

But I don’t think there’s such a thing as becoming a mature person.

I think it’s a progressive thing. I don’t believe that you ever reach a stage where you can say oh I’m mature now. If you do say this at any point, I guarantee that you’re not mature. I’m sorry about it.

If you’re in your twenties, and you look back at your teenage years and think oh God I was so immature back then, that’s fine. That’s good. You’re more mature now. But you’re still immature if you think that’s it. Or if you think you’ll get to 50 years of age and not look back on your twenties and think oh God I was so immature back then.

Maturity should be about growth. It should keep increasing as you age, forever. 

And I think anybody who has some level of maturity, would realise that they don’t have the right to call anyone else “immature” or even “mature”. Because nobody is going to say “oh they’re more mature than I am”. If you say someone is mature, I bet you anything you’re comparing their level of maturity to yours, and deeming that it’s the same.

And if you call someone else immature, you’re again comparing them to your perceived level of maturity and deeming them less so.

I guess I don’t really believe in the whole maturity thing. I think it’s more about personal development and thinking about how you react to things. Don’t classify others as mature or not. There’s no point and it’s really not accurate.

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