Don’t Get Old

The little old lady coughing away in her room. When I walk in, she smiles sweetly, the wrinkles on her face moving in unison

“Don’t get old” she warns.

Don’t get old.

Don’t develop those wrinkles on your face and skin

Don’t get worn out joints that creak and moan when you walk up stairs

Don’t become slow, holding up the crowd behind you as you slowly make your way down the corridor to the bathroom. You see the young people zoom past you, the breeze they leave behind their walk chills you.

Don’t develop the shakes. You think your hold is strong, but it never is. You’re one tremor away from dropping that cup or letting go of that railing and falling backwards.

Don’t lose your hearing. You won’t hear the questions, the comments, the put-downs.

Don’t lose your eyesight. The world isn’t bright anymore. You’ll see spots and floating things. You need those special glasses to even see your cat’s face.

Don’t experience your internal organs break down one by one. Your heart struggling to pump blood around your body, even though you’re smaller than you ever were.

Your kidneys are finding it harder and harder to clean your blood even though you have to use the toilet more often.

Don’t lose your sleep. Sitting up in your favourite chair during the day while talking to your daughter, you nod off. But you’ll be wide awake, staring at the ceiling with dry eyes at night.

Don’t end up in hospital. Every other day they’ll whisper that they doubt you’ll make it out. They’ll smile and be happy to see you.

Don’t talk too much. They’ll say you’re confused and demented for telling that story that’s so close to your heart more than once.

Don’t lose the person you’ve loved and lived with for more than 30 years. You’ll be truly alone for the first time in your life.

Don’t get old.

Real Mature

What is maturity? 

I’ll tell you what it’s Not.

It’s Not telling someone else that they’re immature. 

I find that a lot of people go around these days telling others they’re not “mature enough” because of the way they deal with certain situations. 

I don’t get this. 

I don’t pretend that I’m mature. I don’t pretend I know what a mature person is. I think people are all different and we all have different ways of dealing with things. I don’t tell anyone they’re not “mature”. Because I don’t think anyone is truly “mature”

It’s definitely not an age thing. I’ve seen 50+ year olds act like absolute children, and I’ve seen children show surprising levels of “maturity” for their age. 

But I don’t think there’s such a thing as becoming a mature person.

I think it’s a progressive thing. I don’t believe that you ever reach a stage where you can say oh I’m mature now. If you do say this at any point, I guarantee that you’re not mature. I’m sorry about it.

If you’re in your twenties, and you look back at your teenage years and think oh God I was so immature back then, that’s fine. That’s good. You’re more mature now. But you’re still immature if you think that’s it. Or if you think you’ll get to 50 years of age and not look back on your twenties and think oh God I was so immature back then.

Maturity should be about growth. It should keep increasing as you age, forever. 

And I think anybody who has some level of maturity, would realise that they don’t have the right to call anyone else “immature” or even “mature”. Because nobody is going to say “oh they’re more mature than I am”. If you say someone is mature, I bet you anything you’re comparing their level of maturity to yours, and deeming that it’s the same.

And if you call someone else immature, you’re again comparing them to your perceived level of maturity and deeming them less so.

I guess I don’t really believe in the whole maturity thing. I think it’s more about personal development and thinking about how you react to things. Don’t classify others as mature or not. There’s no point and it’s really not accurate.